The First Date

They say there is a first time for everything. A date also falls into this. I would like to clear up my situation
first . I am a small town boy coming from a school in which we regarded sitting beside a girl in one bench
in class to the ultimate punishment. and every girl in the class was determind to tie each boy rakhi so
that they cannot take further interest in her (as well as to get free gifts). Hence when after moving to bhilai
from there it took me almost a year to be able to be good friends with girls.

1. select a girl of interest
There always was this girl in my friend circle i wanted to date. we were hanging out ( in grp) all
the time. Then i thought its high time for me to get into a relationship.
2. How to ask????
For being a first timer i seeked advice from my friends who gave me ,...well good suggestions.
To be frank..they scared the hell out of me. some said be yourself dude nd all's gonna be well.
some said red roses ..some said chocs,ice-creams.///// .';];];'/'.'.[];]$%$%^^..
The rest said she will hit you with a sandal....scratch ur face with her fingernails....a black eye..or both..

After considering all this i finally asked her out in a reasonable way (can't disclose) and to my surprise
she agreed.
3. DAMn costly affair.
I had to lend a bike, wear a new shirt and still it cost me the pocket money for half the month.

I took her to a good restaurant ..she ate little ordered more.====waste of money.
she asked me several questions about my self===== an interview with a vampire girl.
she chatted relentlessly still i was just gazing at her==== advantages of a beautiful face.

They after having the meal. we went away towards a hangout place which happens to be a shopping
complex. =====money$$$$$$$$.
she ate ice creams ,chocs , bought a scarf and tried buying gift for me from my own money.

I don't Know why we date, it can't be LOVE..its a mear attachment, a likeness ..an attraction.

After all this finally romance crept in our date after a long while in most unlikely fashion.
We were sitting on a bench facing a park,just looking at people moving..kids jumping around..trees
swinging in rhythm..we did nothing much but just talked, ate jalebi from a thela and nothing more.

ANDDDDD time flew for us.

Then finally i dropped her in her home( actually near the street where her home was) and went back
smiling...

ALLS WELL THAT ENDS WELL>>

ps: still if u dont have money u can't have honey.

Be Yourself.

No matter what you wanna do,You ask a friend help me decide What should I do.
You get a reply ..." Dude just be yourself."
Well it has been ages since we hear these words from ourselves and Others.
Then are these words Of any worth, do they really speak the truth.

It is true we cannot act ourselves throughout life,but is being what you are enough?
what if You Dont Like WHO you are??????

Everyone of us has a desire to be popular, to be praised , to be loved..
Fame is a thing everyone wants, Many just wanna trade lives .
People just aren't ready to mould themselves into what they want..they just want
the easy way round things.

Then people have you ever thought U shouldn't have said a thing to someone in your
OWN way of saying things..U haven't done something in YOUR own way of doing
things.. Ever wished U weren't like what you were?????? Like U just dont wanna be
a person U are and just be somebody else????

Even the comic book superheroes dont wanna be themselves..
Do u look yourself into a mirror and say I HATE YOU.
You see people around you doin better,ever wondered U could be something similar??

Well its just that You have to respect Yourself. You have a personality and you just cant
change yourself like u change clothes.Somethings are better the way they are ,better not try
twisting or U may strangle yourself.

Everyone has his GUD and BAD aspects,its just about looking at yourself in a mirror
and saying .."You can do better"..

So people trust yourself and not let yourselves down by things that are meant to do
such foul things. IF God have made you this way,better try leaving it the way it is then.

Just be what you are not what people want you to be.

MEETING THE PARENTS

On a beautifull sunlight day,down on one knee...taking the hand of the girl...
I had proposed.she accepted it..my joy knew no bounds..
It was so very mesmerising then..I had what I wanted..my love by my side..

AS i had said, there is always a FLIPSIDE.

Now after 3 months of dating...she suddenly says to me one day
" what are you doin this sunday afternoon?"asked she
"nothing much..nething special this sunday?" i said
"well u r coming to my house sunday, my parents wanna meet u" said she
"can i have a glass of water plz" i gasped

There are times in a boy's life he just can never be prepared for....
Yes meeting ur Girlfriend's parents.....

well we are so occupied in hollywood movies now a days we somehow..forget what its like in here.
i was a shy guy in those days,,,,yea the one who turns crimson...as the blood somehow makes its presence
felt throughout the physiognomy.

well i drank lots of water...wore my best attire.and went 2 meet the parents.
the house looked Majestic...RICH ..2 cars were parked along with a bike...
( do they belonged to the family ..or were boroughed to impress me....)
I buzzed at their front door..(i did take large quantity of oxygen..i wud cease breathing anyway later on)

A lady opened the door...her mommy..i wished her and she somehow gave a very warm smile..
when I entered the house..it was beautifully decorated( RICH girl hhmmm)..
there was a couch nd the DAD was sitting on it like he were THE GODFATHER>>not the plain Father..
I wished him nd he beconed me to sit beside him..i obliged...

And we began to chat,.he somehow made it a habit that he shdn't give any trace of a so called "SMILE"
mommy went along providing eatables of many varieties...still i noticed she kept on judging me from one corner
of her eye everytime she crossed me,...(well "MOMMY" i m not shahrukh ..i wanted to scream)
AS i had my cheeks red as apples....sweaty palms....a million horrible expressions on my face...
she arrived..nd all was pleasant again.

Then as we all four began talking,...her brother arrived..nd that "look" again as if he were measuring me
(I guess its a family problem)..he shook my hand nd said hello..(he had it from the instant he saw me that...
1.He had seen me in the neighbourhood flirting with girls.
2.At the local pub.drinking like a hog.
3.And offcourse,.creating riots nd other such violence acts nd the night stop at the police station.
)

The dad started comparing me with all the boys he knew were more apt for his daughter..
The mom had completed full scanning of me..nd a detail project on me was ready with her..
The bro well....if he had his will he would love 2 kick me out of the house..
And my girl all the while stared at me smiling................
( now i was a mockery....gr8)

Then the indian touch..this wasn't a nuclear family after all..
many nieces..cousins..the bhaiyas ..the bhabhis...the chachas...the budhaas n buddhies
nd me well i started pinching myself(common this got to be a nightmare)
the kids already were amused by their latest toy "well that would be me".
And by jove!! the stares...I think tom cruise wud be ashamed by my popularity...

I had repeated my name nd my profile about 50 times..every new family member who came along made it a habit
2 feed me...as if i were the holy COW..nd feeding me would bring peace and prosperity to their home..
I had to compete with the entire brigade on every little thing i knew...like badminton..ludo...chess...
cooking...singing and dancing......nd offcourse even the "GUDDA N GUDDI AND GHAR GHAR" games.

I was the joker...nd the show went on nd on...
all this while SHE just stared at me.she kept on smiling ...
GOD I cud bear all this day in day out..if she kept on looking at me the way she was now.
AS i had this brief moments of joy..the youngest member of the family decided that tea break was over..
yea he suddenly started leaking sitting majestically over my lap. THE ICING ON THE CAKE.

Then all of a sudden she broke into laughter...then all of the rest "except me offcource".joined in
This was the limit...i got up nd began to leave..just then she took my hands nd pulled me back...
Then she stated very joyfully that all this was a setup nd i was made a fool.

what else cud I do...I started laughing too..

Every boy has to meet with his girl's parents someday
One advice frm my side please be cool "Every Doggy Has His Bad Day"

A girl ..A boy....nd a journey to remember

I was never a good STUD..ent
but i loved going to the library,,yy????
(ugh!! ugh!! the girls i mean..)
one fine sour day..where the sun was out bt still rain persisted..
just 4 days before my physics exam i and my frnd sam made way to the school library

we went to our customery place by the 4th window of the halll..
but sadly we found it occupied..then we shifted 2 another place..
its so interesting na that when exams are on everyone suddenly starts studying.

Then as i opened my book,,my gaze drifted to someone one desk away from me,
Well i love cindrella but her beauty was nirma washing powder before this girl..
such beauty is only defined in fairy tales...
the way she studies seriously,.the way she smiled,..the way she flipped her hair..
the way she made faces to her frnds ,...well i shd stop now..the list goes on

i was not much of a stalker but what can one do if ur heart stops beating at such a sight
i was just hoping that time shd stop..i was afraid to blink an eyelid ..that if i flicked once she would vanish..
then she saw me...n i froze..
it felt like everything has stopped..i cud see no one

then suddenly she got up n started 2 move out..i dont know what happend i also got up n moved towards her
it felt i didnt have legs..i was flying 2wards her..i stumbled twice on the way,,but kept moving..
then i reached her..we were just outside the library..
i failed in giving words to my emotions..n stupidity prevailed and i said
"I LOVE YOU".

she kept on smiling..i cud only gaze at her..nothing more to say....
she was somehow cylindrical in shape...who cares!
then suddenly everything around me shook in violent tremors..
she trembled...it was an earthquake............

i wasnt going to loose her i promised myself..that look on her face,
cut through my heart like blades..i took her by hand and started running...
when we were out of the building..suddenly i saw a lamppost making its way towards us..
then i embraced her and i flew skywards in a split second
(GOSh i Did'nT knew i Cud fly!!!!!)

then as we moved higher n higher in space..it got darker..but strange..
i cudnt see any planets ..no milky way,,,,not even any of millions of stars.
i knew i shdn't have trusted in movies..or that geography teacher..
but i was with her,,and the rest made a little difference..

then as my gaze went upwards..i saw a hairline crack in the sky...
no way!! now the sky is gonna split up???
then as i stared long i cud see a face coming into picture from the fissure in sky
it was a familiar face...whos was it...............................it was my MOM>.
(BLODDY HELL!! i cundt belive it, my MOM is a GOddess..)

she was angry at me somehow..i figured out she didnt like meeting her daughter in law this way...
but why was she yelling..gods dont yell...then she moved out and the sky was back ...with no fissures..
then i tght its time i shd KISS my dream girl...as i moved my lips to meet hers...flood broke out..
( excuse me....flood from the sky....interesting thoughts for mr.speilberg..)

ANd i opened my eyes to see my mama staring at me as i lay clutching a pillow on the bed..
all soked up in water....nd thinking of a logical explanation for my dream Ventures....

Flipside

"welcome viewers of star cricket. MS Dhoni has the coin and Ricky Pointing to call"
"HEADS is the call......................n its aaaaaaaa TAIL."

well do i have 2 explain u now what a flip side means...
yes yes u geeks...if we toss a coin once the probablity of getting a head or a tail
is 50%..
But u smartasses do u concur what i mean.

There things we expect to happen...There r things we wish were true
There r things we need the most..but seldom get it.There r things we want 2 avoid..but get entangled with
Everything has a flip side to it
every aspect of life is a flip side..

we see around us many kinds of people..
there r the ones who r talkative..some a bit ...well "tounge tied"
some r in love with themselves..some a bit....well "screwed "

But u see there r things we like to hide..
stuff we dont want the world 2 know..
we wear masks...we create cocoons...
just for the sake that we dont get exposed

when someone asks you how r u today
we say"I m fine"
do we really mean it when we say that
what if u r going through a lot of phoney things...still u say "I AM FINE"
why do we do that really ??????
because if we are not fine many questions will be raised..and we dont want people to find out.


some people say "Everything happens for our own good"
that phrase itself explains what i mean 2 say..
what do u call people who follow this phrase
/\///..
ankur says" well the person is an optimist,we wants to get along with his life"
vidya says" yeah the person has a positive vibe about him"
The flip side
som says" the guy is screwed big time,he just accepts his defeats.."
roma says" the guy is an escapist,he just is'nt ready to accept reality"

we can see these contrasts everywhere..
we see in our hindi masala movies...the people who act as saints, r the real culprits..
we watch the publicity hype of a movie..n later find out it to be a no show
we elect people as ministers..thinking they would aid us .later we find..they wre no more than demagogues.


well my readers i wud love to write more on the topic...it would clear my point of view..
THE FLIP SIDE
you will get bored..